Depression is one over used word. We tend to use it to describe everything from a post-sugar cookie rush to the overwhelming defeat of the Dallas Cowboys to the Eagles.
Well, for my Cowboy buddies, maybe this could be the onset of Major Depression. Maybe next year.
Back on task, people do tend to throw the d (depression) word around. When I hear people saying talking about depression in this way, I tend to think that they are talking about the normal ups and downs that we all experience in our day to day lives-not the more global or long-term inversion of moods. Clinical depression is not a moment of sadness, but a tenacious feeling of hopelessness, gloom and isolation that can be triggered by loss, and an imbalance of brain chemicals. It is a physical disease and one that can kill you! Research tells us that suicide is one of the top four killers of Americans between 15 and 44. The numbers tell us that women will attempt suicide more than men, but that men are up to five times more successful in doing it.
The symptom checklist for Depression includes a bunch of very negative ingredients. Some of these include low self-esteem, decreased interest in sex, weight changes, sleep problems, fatigue, problems with your ability to concentrate, spiritual dryness, thoughts of suicide, and isolation. Depression hinders you ability to resist infection and can increase your chances of diabetes and heart disease.
Here is an interesting bit of trivia; 15 percent of Americans have experienced clinically significant depression at some time in our lives.
Dr. Mehmet Oz, MD says, "Depression is a lot like hot sauce-there are all different kinds and nuances, but they can be dangerous at the same time. These types can range from post-partum depression to a full-blow Major Depressive Episode with a psychotic break.
Oz says, "Depression can be trickier than a David Blaine stunt because some of the symptoms are on the subtle side.
If you want to learn more about depression check out some of these sites: Focus on the Family; Mental Health America; Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance; and the American Psychiatric Foundation
If you are interested in attending an Overcoming Depression Workshop with John Thurman Click this link: Overcoming Depression.
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Monday, December 15, 2008
Overcoming Depression
This is part one of a six-part series on Overcoming Depression.
Did you know that Depression impacts between 15 and 20 million Americans? While doctors and mental health professionals are doing a better job of diagnosing Major Depression only a few people actual seek help for depression making it one of the leading causes of suicidal thoughts and actual suicide.
Part of dealing with depression has to do with identifying various losses one has experienced in life. Read more..
Click here for info on John's Overcoming Depression Seminar
Did you know that Depression impacts between 15 and 20 million Americans? While doctors and mental health professionals are doing a better job of diagnosing Major Depression only a few people actual seek help for depression making it one of the leading causes of suicidal thoughts and actual suicide.
Part of dealing with depression has to do with identifying various losses one has experienced in life. Read more..
Click here for info on John's Overcoming Depression Seminar
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
Keep You Sugar Plumbs from Turning to Prunes
“And visions of sugarplums danced in their heads.” My question for you is have your sugar plums turned to prunes?
The Holiday season can be a time of joy and dread. It can be a time of anticipation and a time of some heavy-duty stress. While the joy of the season is around the celebration of Christ’s birth, too many of us get sidetracked with the pressures of the season and the short days of winter.
Rather than being excited about the season we show about the same enthusiasm as a sentenced pirate about to walk the plank. We feel dread, anxiety, exhaustion and isolation. If you feel this way you could be a victim of the Christmas blahs, the Hanukkah malaise, the Kwanza ennui, and for the neo pagans amongst us, the Solstice slump.
Here are some simple suggestions, some humorous, some serious, to keep “your sugarplums from turning into prunes.”
Remember the reason for the season. Re-read the Christmas story, go to a worship service, attend a Christmas Play, and listen to some uplifting seasonal music.
Keep your expectations in line with reality. One of the reasons things go south in so many relationships, particularly this time of year, is undiscussed and undisclosed expectations get violated. If you dare to expect a perfect holiday, then you are probably setting yourself up of a huge disappointment.
Do you remember the dad character from the movie A Christmas Story, he was obsessed with eating the Christmas turkey. He smelled it as it cooked and as it was cooling down on the kitchen table he picked a small pieced and savored it. You might recall that in the very next scene the neighbor’s dogs run through the house and completely destroy the turkey. The dad is heart broken and them mom is resourceful. They end up having Peking Duck and a Chinese restaurant on Christmas Day. Lower your expectations so you’re not frustrated year after year.
Chill out and go with the flow! Relax, laugh take a step back and unwind.
Rememeber, regardless of what your therapist says, the Christmas season is not about problem solving. Deal with family issues another time. You have to choose how you are going to feel. You do not have to be a slave to old memories.
If you are going to be spending a lot of time with family, be intentional about building in breaks for the family. The holidays can be a very special time for families to be together, but you don’t need to overdose.
Watch the food intake. The holidays are a time when many people pick up weight. You can still have the goodies of the season just watch the servings and the sizes. If meal preparation is a bear for you, try making some changes. Don’t let the eating and/or drinking be the focus of the gathering. Avoid getting loaded with spirits, sweets and fats at the same time, there is nothing worse than being bloated, loaded and wired all at the same time. If you do overdo it, be sure to wear your elastic pants or your expandable Dockers – avoid the mid-meal unbuttoning at cost – it is humiliating to you spouse and kids.
Give yourself permission to not have perfection. Remember, Jesus was born in a stall in a barn (cave). He came into this world in a place filled the odors of any farm. He had no tree, no lights and no Christmas buffet.
My wife and I have the opportunity to be in several homes over the holidays and each home has its own unique look. Some homes will have theme trees and the Christmas decorations that look like they came right of HGTV. Other homes have a more personal appeal. Our Christmas tree is a very eclectic one in that we have ornaments that represent out life journey as a family. The proverbial ornaments the kids made. Ornaments we purchased when we were first married and ornaments made for our family by people who have gone on to heaven. So when our tree goes up, it tells the journey of our family. These ornaments can be reminders, of the ebbs and flows, the good and bad days of our live. Enjoy the good things of the holiday.
If you are typically reminded of old, unresolved pain and guilt from your past, seek the forgiveness of the Lord and start making some new traditions.
Take your medication, supplements and vitamins.
Only watch It’s a Wonderful Life one time. It is a great tearjerker and has a wonderful message, but enough is enough. If you are not careful you could end up comparing your life to George Bailey’s. Just remember the Clarence’s theology – “every time a bell rings and angel gets its wings – it will make you feel better regardless of your theological persuasion.
Get outside and exercise. Join the gym – meet new people – force yourself out of the office on a daily basis if at all possible.
Shop for the really important people first.
Buy yourself a toy you always wanted.
Think before you speak. Make a list of “topics to avoid.” If you are feeling down please consider ruling out all discussions on: your job, personal life, health, religion, politics, the past, the future, and most often the present. Topics that are almost always safe: the weather, sports, gardening and the other person’s life. God gave us two ears and one mouth-go figure. Use your words to help others feel good about themselves-you could be surprised as to how it will make you feel.
Stay loose, be flexible. 21st century families are always changing due to job situations, childbirth, illness, job demands, divorce, and the return of work for former stay-at-home moms. Tradition doesn’t have to mean rigidity.
Look and pray for creative solutions to problems. Just because you have always done it that way before doesn’t mean you have to continue to do it that way now.
Mom and Dad – let your married kids develop their own holiday traditions – no guilt trips.
Check out My Twenty Holiday Stress Busting Tips
(c) 2007 John Thurman
The Holiday season can be a time of joy and dread. It can be a time of anticipation and a time of some heavy-duty stress. While the joy of the season is around the celebration of Christ’s birth, too many of us get sidetracked with the pressures of the season and the short days of winter.
Rather than being excited about the season we show about the same enthusiasm as a sentenced pirate about to walk the plank. We feel dread, anxiety, exhaustion and isolation. If you feel this way you could be a victim of the Christmas blahs, the Hanukkah malaise, the Kwanza ennui, and for the neo pagans amongst us, the Solstice slump.
Here are some simple suggestions, some humorous, some serious, to keep “your sugarplums from turning into prunes.”
Remember the reason for the season. Re-read the Christmas story, go to a worship service, attend a Christmas Play, and listen to some uplifting seasonal music.
Keep your expectations in line with reality. One of the reasons things go south in so many relationships, particularly this time of year, is undiscussed and undisclosed expectations get violated. If you dare to expect a perfect holiday, then you are probably setting yourself up of a huge disappointment.
Do you remember the dad character from the movie A Christmas Story, he was obsessed with eating the Christmas turkey. He smelled it as it cooked and as it was cooling down on the kitchen table he picked a small pieced and savored it. You might recall that in the very next scene the neighbor’s dogs run through the house and completely destroy the turkey. The dad is heart broken and them mom is resourceful. They end up having Peking Duck and a Chinese restaurant on Christmas Day. Lower your expectations so you’re not frustrated year after year.
Chill out and go with the flow! Relax, laugh take a step back and unwind.
Rememeber, regardless of what your therapist says, the Christmas season is not about problem solving. Deal with family issues another time. You have to choose how you are going to feel. You do not have to be a slave to old memories.
If you are going to be spending a lot of time with family, be intentional about building in breaks for the family. The holidays can be a very special time for families to be together, but you don’t need to overdose.
Watch the food intake. The holidays are a time when many people pick up weight. You can still have the goodies of the season just watch the servings and the sizes. If meal preparation is a bear for you, try making some changes. Don’t let the eating and/or drinking be the focus of the gathering. Avoid getting loaded with spirits, sweets and fats at the same time, there is nothing worse than being bloated, loaded and wired all at the same time. If you do overdo it, be sure to wear your elastic pants or your expandable Dockers – avoid the mid-meal unbuttoning at cost – it is humiliating to you spouse and kids.
Give yourself permission to not have perfection. Remember, Jesus was born in a stall in a barn (cave). He came into this world in a place filled the odors of any farm. He had no tree, no lights and no Christmas buffet.
My wife and I have the opportunity to be in several homes over the holidays and each home has its own unique look. Some homes will have theme trees and the Christmas decorations that look like they came right of HGTV. Other homes have a more personal appeal. Our Christmas tree is a very eclectic one in that we have ornaments that represent out life journey as a family. The proverbial ornaments the kids made. Ornaments we purchased when we were first married and ornaments made for our family by people who have gone on to heaven. So when our tree goes up, it tells the journey of our family. These ornaments can be reminders, of the ebbs and flows, the good and bad days of our live. Enjoy the good things of the holiday.
If you are typically reminded of old, unresolved pain and guilt from your past, seek the forgiveness of the Lord and start making some new traditions.
Take your medication, supplements and vitamins.
Only watch It’s a Wonderful Life one time. It is a great tearjerker and has a wonderful message, but enough is enough. If you are not careful you could end up comparing your life to George Bailey’s. Just remember the Clarence’s theology – “every time a bell rings and angel gets its wings – it will make you feel better regardless of your theological persuasion.
Get outside and exercise. Join the gym – meet new people – force yourself out of the office on a daily basis if at all possible.
Shop for the really important people first.
Buy yourself a toy you always wanted.
Think before you speak. Make a list of “topics to avoid.” If you are feeling down please consider ruling out all discussions on: your job, personal life, health, religion, politics, the past, the future, and most often the present. Topics that are almost always safe: the weather, sports, gardening and the other person’s life. God gave us two ears and one mouth-go figure. Use your words to help others feel good about themselves-you could be surprised as to how it will make you feel.
Stay loose, be flexible. 21st century families are always changing due to job situations, childbirth, illness, job demands, divorce, and the return of work for former stay-at-home moms. Tradition doesn’t have to mean rigidity.
Look and pray for creative solutions to problems. Just because you have always done it that way before doesn’t mean you have to continue to do it that way now.
Mom and Dad – let your married kids develop their own holiday traditions – no guilt trips.
Check out My Twenty Holiday Stress Busting Tips
(c) 2007 John Thurman
Parenting Skills
I was recently talking to an psychiatrist friend of mine who specializes in working with adolescents in a psych hospital. We were sharing parenting stories when he told me of several teenage patients that had been admitted to the hospital for suicidal ideation. When I asked him about the events that lead up to their crisis he replied, "Their parents took their cellphone as a consequence."
I was taken back a bit by this story. I asked him, "Why do you think that happened?" His opinion was that they felt completely cut off from friends and their support network. With no cell phones, they had no way to stay in contact with their support systems. He also felt that these kids were dealing with Major Depression. Click here for info on teen depression
I will give you an option to think about at the end of this blog.
As a parent of adult children, thank God they got through their teen years relatively intact, and as a Marriage a Family Educator I'd like to share some basic principles of parenting. These have been around for ever, but a little review won't hurt.
Last week, Todd Cook, my pastor, listed these in our services.
Here is the answer to "What kind of discipline is appropriate?
So, what about the cell phone. If you teen abuses the privilege you cut back their use. Do it in stages, like cutting them back for a few minutes a day, but measure your response. As a parent, you have the power to discipline your kids. Use it wisely. Click here for parenting tips
I was taken back a bit by this story. I asked him, "Why do you think that happened?" His opinion was that they felt completely cut off from friends and their support network. With no cell phones, they had no way to stay in contact with their support systems. He also felt that these kids were dealing with Major Depression. Click here for info on teen depression
I will give you an option to think about at the end of this blog.
As a parent of adult children, thank God they got through their teen years relatively intact, and as a Marriage a Family Educator I'd like to share some basic principles of parenting. These have been around for ever, but a little review won't hurt.
Last week, Todd Cook, my pastor, listed these in our services.
Here is the answer to "What kind of discipline is appropriate?
- Spell out Expectations and rules for your kids before you try to enforce them with discipline.
- Never discipline for Childish Mistakes or childhood forgetfulness.
- Never discipline out of Anger
- Always go from the mildest form of discipline to the more severe forms.
So, what about the cell phone. If you teen abuses the privilege you cut back their use. Do it in stages, like cutting them back for a few minutes a day, but measure your response. As a parent, you have the power to discipline your kids. Use it wisely. Click here for parenting tips
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